Have you ever noticed that so many people seem to be completely in love when they get married and then the love and excitement seems to fade within only a year or two?
We’ve had so many talks about what happens to married couples and how so many seem like business partners instead of romantic relationships. Our commitment-phobic ideas surfaced often as we had these chats. I mean honestly- what is the key to being one of those few, lucky, truly happy people who seem to grow in love as time goes on?
We had recently had a class with some of our favorite people and former church leaders on marriage, and they gave us a date planner to let us know it’s important and that is what will keep love alive. We kind of giggled at the idea that people need a calendar to plan fun things and special time to be together. The calendar consisted of a list of things you want to do together, and then writing down what nights of the week or when in the month you will do them. They explained, “If you don’t plan it, time will take over and you won’t have time for each other and your marriage. This time is crucial.”
Have you also noticed that most people get married and start a blog?
Camille and Jacob joked about the blog, didn’t plan to start one, and then one beautiful night as we went to dinner and discussed the importance of dating in marriage and the lesson given the night before by our friends and former Bishop, we decided we were going to need to keep ourselves accountable for dates and make sure we plan something at least every week.
So here’s the deal:
Friday is date night. That’s going to be our minimum- every Friday we are going to do something fun together to make sure our relationship stays top priority and we’re one of those cool old couples who love each other more.
We’ll switch off who plans the date every other week.
We are going to do our darnedest to take pictures of the activity and hopefully inspire others to do the same and document date night- the night couples set aside to cultivate the love and friendship in their relationship.
Our Friday nights will be the nights we make sure we fall in love again.
One of our favorite songs is by The Cure, entitled “Friday I’m in Love.” Hopefully we’ll love each other other days, but we’re making this lyric our new slogan, Friday We’re In Love-
And thus another couple starts their lives together as husband and wife, and thus another blog is born.