Do you ever think dating can be intimidating? I feel culturally there is this huge pressure to plan a marathon date that lasts hours upon hours with lots of activities. As a newlywed I really enjoy marathon dates and look forward to them, I mean look at this boy, of course I love them!
BUT it was only a year a half ago before Jacob and I went exclusive that I was on the market dating new guys often. I’ll never forget the dates that went from 6:00 p.m. until midnight, and we both knew we just weren’t meshing well. 6 hours and lots of money later we both felt exhausted, the opposite of what dating should do. And 6 HOURS worth of planning! Oh wow that can be intimidating!
I once spoke about this with my friend who was living in New York at the time. He told me it’s more a Western thing, and in NY even the non-coffee drinkers head to Starbucks for a quick snack/non-coffee drink and just hang out for an hour or two. Â If it goes great the marathon date is on, if it doesn’t, well, only 2 hours not 6 were wasted.
So I was thinking about less intimidating date ideas for those of us on the Western side of the U.S. in the first date phase, or even the married with kids people who need a quick date while kids nap or while they pay the babysitter for just a few hours. Maybe lunch, maybe the Starbucks or afternoon frozen yogurt date, maybe schedule an activity between classes if you’re in school….they are all good ideas. BUT what if you want to impress and appear more creative? Well it hit me this weekend-
I could eat breakfast food for every meal. Too bad Jacob hates eggs so this slows me down on the dinner scene. But aww brunch. Think about it, still sleep in, still get breakfast- it’s a win/win. The date can go from 10:00-noon and then it’s like it’s awkward to keep going, you’re in the lunch zone for first timers.
And then I found this recipe last week that I adapted to make a little easier, tangier, and perfect for 2.
Can anyone say no to LEMON POPPY-SEED PANCAKES with FRESH SUGAR GLAZED STRAWBERRIES?
Look at that picture again and try….YOU CAN’T DO IT!
They were every bit as good as they sound/look.
We spent about 15 minutes prepping the pancakes together, 15 minutes making the pancakes and slicing strawberries, and a good 45 minutes eating the pancakes and discussing deep topics such as how funny Jacob’s hair looks in the morning, the need to buy a new kitchen table and the fact that we are both adults with jobs and should actually break down and buy one that isn’t falling apart, summer fruit, the weather, 4th of July plans, laundry detergent, and spreadable butter. Yeah, morning isn’t our finest intellectual hour, but it sure makes for a chill date that is more creative than “let’s grab coffee.”
And voila! A less intimidating date in under 2 hours full of good company, great food, and some creativity.
Here’s the Recipe:
*Adapted from The Picky Cook
1 Cup flour
1/2 Teaspoon baking powder
1/4 Teaspoon baking soda
7 TBSP sugar
half a pinch of salt
8 TBSP poppy seeds
zest of 3 small or 2 large lemons
1 cup buttermilk (make your own with 1 cup milk and 1 tsp lemon juice from the lemon)
1 large egg
1 1/2 Tablespoons butter (melted)
Mix dry ingredients together in the Kitchenaid or with a hand mixer (flour, sugar, baking powder, soda, and salt). While that is mixing make your own buttermilk (1 cup milk with 1 tsp lemon juice, and let it sit for just a few minutes. You’ll watch the milk curdle and you’ll know it’s ready).
While the buttermilk is curdling, grab a zester or a cheese grater with a small grating side. Zest the lemon (grate small pieces of the peal off with the grater).
Melt the butter in the microwave. In a separate bowl lightly beat the egg with a fork. Add the buttermilk mixture. Add the melted butter. Add the zest of the lemons and the poppy-seeds. Mix well.
Add the wet ingredients to the dry ingredients and combine. Don’t over mix- the batter should be a little lumpy. Over mixing will cause the pancakes to not be as fluffy, trust me.
Heat a skillet on medium heat on the stove top. Grease with butter or butter flavored no-stick spray. Add about 1/3 of a cup of batter in rounds to create the pancake. Watch until there are a few bubbles foaming on the sides and flip the pancake. It should be golden brown on both sides.
Serve with sliced strawberries coated with sugar. (We chop up about a cup and add about 2 tsp sugar it comes out great). Â
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