Overcoming Obstacles: Babysitter Woes
I knew getting a babysitter would be a new obstacle in the world of dating with a baby. However, I’ve been surprised at just how large of an obstacle this can be! My assumption was the main issue was cost. Truthfully, it definitely adds up to pay the going rate on top of the date expense. Surprisingly, that has actually been on the bottom of the issue list.
Babysitter Obstacles With a New Baby
The top? Finding someone you trust to be with your baby. It’s amazing how you think anyone will do before they are born. Then suddenly you’re pretty fearful of who is capable of taking care of their little needs.
We have a pretty good baby most of the time. However, he is a reflux baby who spits up more than he keeps down. He can get really fussy at night and cry and scream without much consolation until the food moves through his little body. That seems fine for us as loving and fairly patient parents. But, I have been so afraid of who will tolerate this screaming without wanting to shake the baby.
Who will actually come back in a few months when he outgrows this phase? Who will know to hold him in the right position so he feels the most comfortable while it passes? I’ve worried for him and for the sake of whoever is watching him. Consequently, we’ve had more dates where he tags along than I’d like to admit because of my own rookie parent fears.
Issues of Leaving Kids with a Babysitter
The other issue- who do you even hire? I’ve been a church youth leader in two different congregations in our city. Even with this hookup, we still have a short list of who to call. Teens’ schedules fill up fast. Many are too busy to be called with less than a week’s notice, and some of them have rates that are pretty crazy.
We’re learning that you really do need a list of at least five ready to go at all times or your chances aren’t great of even snagging one of your bottom choices.
In spite of this, we have hired a few teens to come to watch our precious bundle that we’re entirely too protective of. We are learning to overcome this obstacle because it turns out better than you’d think most the time. And, dating one-on-one is important! This past weekend we went out for Valentine’s Day (post coming this week) and left him with our niece who I’ll now forever call the baby whisperer.
I feared we’d come home at the height of screaming time to a baby who refused to eat or sleep and one stressed out sitter. I walked into a cooing baby playing with toys who had taken two naps, two bottles and was happy as could be to be hanging out with his older cousin.
Dedicating Ourselves to Making Date Night Happen and Hiring a Regular Babysitter
We decided that it’s time to re-prioritize and to decide to let go of some of our fears. It’s time to get that list of babysitters ready and handy. Also, it’s maybe even time to get one on retainer so we’re set every Friday.
We also decided that this date alone was so special, and so needed. It was our wake up call that it’s time to work even harder at overcoming the babysitter obstacle. It’s time to make sure all excuses are removed so we can continue to have our sacred Friday (or sometimes Saturday) nights together for this project of ours.
How We’re Going to Overcome Babysitter Obstacles:
– Keep a regular sitter on retainer. Offer her a weekly night and stick to it like a professional job!
– Keep a list of five backup sitters at all times.
– Let go of some of the control and reprioritize us
– Get a list of backup dates ready to go
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I'll admit, all of our babysitters are family… my niece, my sister, my brother, and if all of them are busy, we ask one of our parents or my sister-in-law. I do have some teenagers that I would trust and call if I needed to, and I should probably do that more often 😛
It's super hard. I still haven't left mine with anyone but family since I'm so paranoid. Luckily both his grandmas aren't far away and are always more than willing, because otherwise I don't know what we'd do!
We have been lucky enough to have a couple of YW in our ward offer babysitting services without us even asking! One of them offered to watch Gwen a week in advance so we can go on a date for Valentine's. We don't have the option of asking family members because they all live in different states, so it's really been a blessing. The only downside is paying, but I think it's completely worth it.
Girl the struggle is freaking real! Thankfully Jade passed that phase also but when she was in it I'd hire two or even three teens just to help with Rory also. (plus they were earning money for camp) Now I only do 2 if they're earning for camp and they're always girls I have in class